Since when do children matter more?
As I scroll through social media it becomes blatantly clear that children matter more than our spouses. It makes me ask the question, since when do children matter more than our husbands or our wives?
Children are temporary. I think I first heard this at our church and well when you think about it, it is true. Our children are only temporary...they will grow, become adults, and leave our households to live their own lives. Our marriages are permanent, or at least they should be.
So if marriage is permanent when and why do our kids seem to overtake our marriages? As you scroll through your social media feeds do you notice an enormous amount of women (mostly) posting Valentine\"s Day posts showing off their kiddos? Now I\"m not opposed to posting about your kids, hey I post a lot of pictures of my kids but when the majority of your "life" is just your kids, if your profile pictures is you and your kids, not your spouse, when someone has to really look to see if you are still married, well maybe your priority is not your spouse anymore.
If we follow the Bible this is how it should look:
God
Spouse
Children
In our world it looks more like this:
Children
Self
Spouse
God
My husband, God bless him, always makes our marriage a priority. Kids are second in our house the majority of the time. Although I must admit this sometimes does not feel "right" to me as a momma bear, in the end he is right, our marriage should come first, our children should come second. Let me rephrase that, God must come first, our spouse should come second, our kids should come third.
I know this is very hard to do. I know that our instinct as mothers is to protect and care for our children and you are right. I\"m not saying we need to neglect our kids and when our kids are young they do need most of our attention. When Adeline and Josiah were nursing they were my top priority and because I was their food source I could not leave them for extended amount of times HOWEVER Marcel and I still managed to make time for each other. We still managed to get a babysitter so we could go on date nights, and we still made each other a priority.
This Valentine\"s Day Marcel and I snuck away to Lancaster County, PA. We rented an adorable AirBNB which was very affordable (because you know we are paying off all our debt) and was perfect for our getaway.
We took a ride on the Strasburg Railroad!
We went to the movies!!!! First time since this darn pandemic hit!
And of course we ate at our favorite Amish restaurant Hometown Kitchen.
I encourage all of you to put your marriage first. I\"m writing from a wife\"s point of view but please, if you are dude do these for your wife. Here are some suggestions:
- Change your profile picture to a pic of you and your hubby.
- Schedule a date night, at least once a month.
- Before you get out of bed spend time holding each other.
- During the day send your husband a flirty text, tell him how much you miss him and can\"t wait to see him when he gets home from work.
- Pray with each other.
- Go to the dollar store and buy your husband a card, write down what you appreciate about him and mail it to him (I know you live together but there is something about getting mail that is more exciting than if you just put it on the table).
- Write a cute note on a sticky note and leave it somewhere where he will see it later in the day.
- Make him a cup of coffee as soon as you wake up, even if you are tired and just want to have your own coffee.
- Always kiss him goodbye.
- Hold hands.
Comments
Post a Comment